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Is Beauty Purely Physical?

I have a hideous birthmark on the left side of my face and I have tried everything in the book to look appealing to the opposite sex. What do I do?

I received this question a few weeks ago and as you all know, I am backlogged with answering your super duper exciting questions.
This question seemed to sadden me a bit, so I thought I would address it on here. The issue with this generation is that life is meant to be lived as glamorous as possible. Whether it’s a guy owning a fancy car or sporting a six pack or if it’s a girl with an absurd amount of cleavage on display. These are just a number of things that catches the eye of a lot of people.
With whatever (if any at all) compliments I receive about my looks from my girlfriend or ex’s or even the odd admirers , I find them to be slightly flattering but at the same time I don’t get the same buzz or the same amount of joy when someone compliments me about the nature of my personality. Even if I was to obsessively go to the gym everyday until I have achieved a chiselled body, you wouldn’t see me directly/slyly posting pictures of myself flaunting what I would have to gain a reaction.
Photography in my eye isn’t about glamour, it’s not about taking pictures to make yourself look pretty and for someone to tell you that you’re pretty. Photography to me is about art, it’s about creativity, it’s about allowing others to have an artistic outlook on the photos you take. It is also about capturing moments and memories.
I think in life, you do have to look after yourself and treat yourself to a point where you feel happy and confident about who you are and what you look like. You shouldn’t be concentrating on trying to better your looks just to appeal to one person that might not even stick with you. If that person cannot take you for who you currently are, even when you feel at your best, then that person really doesn’t deserve someone such as yourself.

We all have flaws in ourselves. It might be that we’re overweight, we have a nose we’re uncomfortable with or we have a great amount of hair growing on our arms to our backs, but these qualities I have just mentioned are the genetic and biological makeup that are a part of you. The flaws, the skin that bares your bones, your DNA are all things that are unique from everyone else, so you shouldn’t feel inferior or the need to change for anyone, because it’s good to have a significant amount of difference compared to others.
To say things such as “I want to enhance my beauty” is the same as you admitting defeat because you can’t prove to yourself and others that you can work with what you were originally born and grew up with.
It is lovely to use dermatological products and makeup since it does make your beauty glow, but don’t be someone to sit on a stool for 4 hours to mould a make-up mask onto your face. A person who truly loves you is someone who spots beauty inside and out.